You Are What You Think You Are

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Finding a happy relationship is not really about what you look like. Or what a man or woman thinks of you. It’s not about what he or she wants, or likes or does. It’s all about you! It’s about what you think. What you feel. And what you choose. It’s about truly knowing you are fabulous (everyone is), and not settling for anyone who isn’t smart enough to recognize your fabulousness.

We’re all mind readers in a sense because energy is contagious. Whatever you’re thinking or feeling about yourself on the inside will be the energy you project on the outside. You are what you think you are. And therefore what everyone else thinks you are, too. So if you’re thinking, “She’d never be interested in me,” that’s why she’s not. And if you’re thinking, “I can’t keep a man,” that’s why you can’t.

Your thoughts create your feelings. Then your feelings cause you to act. Or react. Your actions produce your results. So if you want a different result, it really is as simple as changing your thinking. Of course, I realize that is easier said than done. That’s why I’m here to help.

Start by asking yourself what you’re really looking for. Forget about what a man or woman might want. In fact, forget about relationships altogether for now. This is about you. Take a good, long look at yourself, beyond just the reflection you see in the mirror. Look into your heart and your mind. What do you see? Do you like who you are? Are you comfortable with you? What do you really want? None of these questions have anything to do with being in a relationship. But when you find happiness for yourself in the answers, men will be very attracted to you.

Read more about how to find and keep a happy relationship in my book Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships