Don’t Ask Questions if You Can’t Handle the Answers

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Probably the easiest way to avoid hurting yourself more when you’re struggling through a painful breakup is to stop talking to your ex. Most definitely, don’t ask any questions that can spike your anxiety and make you feel worse if you don’t get the answer you want. Before you ask …

After a Breakup Your Ex Gets All or Nothing

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Breakups are really painful. Many of my clients who come to me looking for help to either get their ex back or get over the heartache have never reached out for any kind of help before. But they find themselves unable to handle this kind of grief. Losing the love …

Is Your Kryptonite Destroying Your Relationship?

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Can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t have? Feel like you’re settling in some way for the relationship you’re in? That’s what I call Relationship kryptonite. Perhaps it’s your ex that you haven’t gotten over, “the one that got away”. Or frequently it’s a one night stand, or a fabulous …

You Can’t Control What Your Ex Does

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When living through a breakup your ex consumes the majority of your thoughts. What is he doing? Why doesn’t she want me? What’s wrong with me? That’s when the bargaining stage of the grief process begins. You start obsessing about what you could do better so you can get your …

Natural Cure for a Painful Breakup

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Order MSM from Amazon: https://amzn.to/2AoBGBS The pain of someone you love breaking up with you can be more than you can bear at times. So I’d like to offer you an easy, natural way to feel better. Simply go for a run! Working out is a natural antidepressant. It stimulates your brain to …

Dating An Addict

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Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem. Drinking is very social, and when you’re attracted to someone, it’s easy to get swept …

12 Steps to Protect Your Finances When Leaving an Abusive Relationship

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by Dana Sitar (@danasitar) for The Penny Hoarder Lisa Orban was married to her abuser for three years. In 1990, she left after he threatened to kill her and their two young children. She was 20 years old. Her financial situation in the marriage? “Bad, in a nutshell,” she recalls. Not …

Tips to Handle and Stop Bullying

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Highlights Bullying occurs on a daily or weekly basis in 23 percent of public schools across the United States. It has a negative effect on everyone, including the bully, the target, the people who witness it, and anyone else connected to it. Bullying is a community issue and requires a …

Looking at Your Partner’s Phone

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If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of his/her boundaries. It damages trust. Once trust is gone it’s …

When It’s Time to Go: Part 1

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A checklist of essentials to take with you when escaping abuse Walking out the door and away from an abuser—or kicking an abusive partner out the door, if so inclined—is seldom as easy as it sounds. Abusers thrive on power and control, and having their victim leave them is the ultimate …

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally …

How to Survive the Weekends After a Breakup

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What is my ex doing without me this weekend? That’s one of the hardest parts of a breakup — but you can survive, and even be happy if you choose to not think about him/her at all! Don’t cyberstalk his/her social media pages, don’t imagine who he/she is with, and don’t talk about your ex at all! Make plans …

Are You in Limbo?

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Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …

Breakup With Your Frenemies

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Do you have a friend that you don’t really like but you stay friends with anyway? The very nature of the word “frenemy” which is a merging of the completely opposite words “friend” and “enemy” should tell you it’s not a good relationship. But frenemies are more than just bad …