Is Your Kryptonite Destroying Your Relationship?

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Can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t have? Feel like you’re settling in some way for the relationship you’re in? That’s what I call Relationship kryptonite. Perhaps it’s your ex that you haven’t gotten over, “the one that got away”. Or frequently it’s a one night stand, or a fabulous …

Dating An Addict

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Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem. Drinking is very social, and when you’re attracted to someone, it’s easy to get swept …

12 Steps to Protect Your Finances When Leaving an Abusive Relationship

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by Dana Sitar (@danasitar) for The Penny Hoarder Lisa Orban was married to her abuser for three years. In 1990, she left after he threatened to kill her and their two young children. She was 20 years old. Her financial situation in the marriage? “Bad, in a nutshell,” she recalls. Not …

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A Look At The Connections Addiction affects millions of lives each year; not only does the individual who is battling the addiction suffer, but their families often do, as well. In some cases, alcohol and drug addiction can be linked

Tips to Handle and Stop Bullying

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Highlights Bullying occurs on a daily or weekly basis in 23 percent of public schools across the United States. It has a negative effect on everyone, including the bully, the target, the people who witness it, and anyone else connected to it. Bullying is a community issue and requires a …

Looking at Your Partner’s Phone

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If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of his/her boundaries. It damages trust. Once trust is gone it’s …

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Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help. Recognize the signs of domestic violence against men Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence —

When It’s Time to Go: Part 1

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A checklist of essentials to take with you when escaping abuse Walking out the door and away from an abuser—or kicking an abusive partner out the door, if so inclined—is seldom as easy as it sounds. Abusers thrive on power and control, and having their victim leave them is the ultimate …

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally …

Are You in Limbo?

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Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …

Breakup With Your Frenemies

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Do you have a friend that you don’t really like but you stay friends with anyway? The very nature of the word “frenemy” which is a merging of the completely opposite words “friend” and “enemy” should tell you it’s not a good relationship. But frenemies are more than just bad …

Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?

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Has everyone you dated been unavailable to you in one way or another? They may seem available in some ways but are they also long distance, emotionally closed, won’t commit completely, or married to someone else? Be really honest with yourself and answer the following 3 questions. How available is this guy …

The Better Way To Breakup

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Hurting someone’s feelings is never easy but if you want to end your relationship it’s the compassionate thing to do. In fact, the more final you can be the better. People hear what they want to hear. If you try to sugar coat the breakup your soon-to-be ex will focus …

Don’t Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

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Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, & desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and end it anyway.