Enabling addiction by giving money

Are You An Enabler? Quiz

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Truly loving someone means you want the best for them. However, giving them everything they want is far from what’s best for anyone. It creates codependence. And makes you an enabler. When you’re given things instead of having to work hard to achieve them for yourself you don’t learn anything. …

Are you focused on something other than your relationship

Do You Know if You’re Self Absorbed?

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After a breakup, it’s easy to have 20/20 vision about what you could have done differently to save the relationship. But how about while you’re still in the relationship? Being self absorbed will destroy your relationship. If your current partner is important to you then you need to make sure …

Are you hung up on someone you can't have?

Is Your Kryptonite Destroying Your Relationship?

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Can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t have? Feel like you’re settling in some way for the relationship you’re in? That’s what I call Relationship kryptonite. Perhaps it’s your ex that you haven’t gotten over, “the one that got away”. Or frequently it’s a one night stand, or a fabulous …

Are you in love with an addict?

Dating An Addict

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Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem. Drinking is very social, and when you’re attracted to someone, it’s easy to get swept …

Controlling your finances is absuive.

12 Steps to Protect Your Finances When Leaving an Abusive Relationship

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by Dana Sitar (@danasitar) for The Penny Hoarder Lisa Orban was married to her abuser for three years. In 1990, she left after he threatened to kill her and their two young children. She was 20 years old. Her financial situation in the marriage? “Bad, in a nutshell,” she recalls. Not …

mean girl bullying a sad girl

Tips to Handle and Stop Bullying

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Highlights Bullying occurs on a daily or weekly basis in 23 percent of public schools across the United States. It has a negative effect on everyone, including the bully, the target, the people who witness it, and anyone else connected to it. Bullying is a community issue and requires a …

You shoudl never look at your partner's phone

Looking at Your Partner’s Phone

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If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of his/her boundaries. It damages trust. Once trust is gone it’s …

women can be abusive to men.

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Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help. Recognize the signs of domestic violence against men Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence —

Get your plan ready. It's time to leave your relationship.

When Its Time to Go: Part 1

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A checklist of essentials to take with you when escaping abuse Walking out the door and away from an abuser—or kicking an abusive partner out the door, if so inclined—is seldom as easy as it sounds. Abusers thrive on power and control, and having their victim leave them is the ultimate …

When you're feeling rejected don't reject back, communicate.

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally …

Are you in limbo waiting for something to change about your relationship?

Are You in Limbo?

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Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …