The Painful Truth About Your Breakup

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There is no quick fix to stop hurting from your breakup. No one can guarantee to get your ex back, because people have free will. You can’t control what your ex does; and the more you try the less attractive you become. Did you try no contact for 30 days? And your ex hasn’t come back yet, right? Now you’re stuck in limbo just waiting, ruminating, and desperately wanting to tell your ex how you feel. You’re afraid you’ll never find anyone better.

That’s the point when most of my clients come to me for help, because they just don’t know what to do to get their ex to try again. They’re not ready to let go. Many of them don’t even know why their ex left them in the first place. They’re tired of searching the internet only to find no real comfort or relief — until they find me. I’m the one who will give you The Painful Truth that this breakup is the best thing to happen to you. Your pain can help you grow. Now is your chance to look at your own issues and raise your self-esteem. My clients do achieve a happier relationship, maybe with your ex, or possibly with someone much better. But right now you need to stop thinking about your ex and focus all of your energy on you.

I genuinely understand what you’re going through because I’ve gone through it myself too many times. I’ve tried everything and I can tell you first hand what does and doesn’t work. I’m not selling some cheap gimmick. I don’t believe in playing games or being manipulative. I will give you The Painful Truth you need to hear to help you ultimately feel much better.

I’ve been perfecting my coaching method since the 90’s when I first had my heart ripped out by a man who had chased me for years, only to ghost me when I fell head over heels in love with him. Ghosting wasn’t even a term then and there was no internet to search for answers. I was so confused and utterly debilitated by the pain. I felt like a failure. Why didn’t he want me anymore? That was the most important question to find an answer for. But it really wasn’t about him. The Painful Truth was that I needed to focus on me.

I discovered knowledge was the only thing that made me feel better. Wanting to influence what my ex did made me feel helpless. Taking action to become a better version of myself made me feel hopeful. I started to learn about boundaries and how to enforce them. I looked at my pattern and realized I’d been picking the wrong partners. I didn’t even realize I’d been in some pretty toxic relationships. I reached out for professional help for the first time in my life. That turned out to be the best choice I could have made.

Of course as I started to look at my issues my first desire was to show my ex how much I’d changed. He called me after 7 months of no contact. I jumped at the opportunity to see him. I thought we were getting back together. But he just wanted a little fix of me. Email had recently become available, so I started bombarding him with all my emotion and new-found knowledge. I have certainly learned by my mistakes.

By 2001, I had gotten so good at dating I was asked to be in a reality show about being single in New York. That lead to co-hosting a talk show about sex & relationships and by the end of that decade I had been through NYU and was now coaching others how to get over their breakups. I published my book and became the relationship expert for Good Morning America.

I genuinely understand how difficult it is to focus on anything but your ex. Have you felt unable to focus on work or be productive? Is it hard to sleep and are you barely eating? I have now compiled all the wisdom I have acquired from the last decade both personally and from professionally coaching hundreds of clients. Here are the top three benefits I’m offering you in my Breakup Recovery Action Plan:

  1. A proven action plan to become the best version of yourself.
  2. Get out of limbo by setting realistic goals and utilize your time effectively to create the life you want.
  3. Emotional support to accept The Painful Truth about your ex.

There are two possible outcomes for you that either way are a win, win to make you feel great about yourself.

Scenario 1: Imagine how you will feel when you do get your ex back but this time you’ll have a better relationship because you have grown and have tools to communicate effectively and enforce healthy boundaries.


Scenario 2:  All your positive growth helps you recognize that your ex isn’t good enough for you anymore. Imagine how empowered you’ll feel when your ex tries to get you back but you’ve moved on and truly don’t care. You tell your ex you’re done, because like attracts like, and you’ll be more attracted to a healthier partner.

In my next video I’ll walk you through the first step in coping with life without your ex.

So I hope you enjoyed this video. If you have any questions send me a message, I’m more than happy to help. And as I mentioned, stay tuned for my next video because I’ll be showing you exactly how to begin handling The Painful Truth about your ex and start feeling better.

Or if you’re ready to stop hurting and start becoming the best version of yourself click here to learn more and register.