Forgive and forget is much easier said than done when you feel betrayed or unloved. When you’re unable to get past something that your partner did, or didn’t do, it’s easy to become passive aggressive. The impulse to punish your partner for hurting you is certainly understandable. However, make …
When someone you love has betrayed you or hurt you in anyway, it’s hard to let it go. But if you love your partner and want to make your relationship work you need to stop focusing on your past before it destroys your future. It’s a waste of your time …
Are you waiting for your partner to change so you can get your needs met? That’s giving your power away, and leaving you in limbo. We are all responsible for taking care of our own needs. What you need to do is enforce stronger boundaries. As soon as your partner …
Falling in love can be very allusive. That’s why many people stay in relationships that don’t really work for them. However, if you’re in love but not happy then you need to make a change. First and foremost, love should make you happy. I ask my clients to put a …
Truly loving someone means you want the best for them. However, giving them everything they want is far from what’s best for anyone. It creates codependence. And makes you an enabler. When you’re given things instead of having to work hard to achieve them for yourself you don’t learn anything. …
After a breakup, it’s easy to have 20/20 vision about what you could have done differently to save the relationship. But how about while you’re still in the relationship? Being self absorbed will destroy your relationship. If your current partner is important to you then you need to make sure …
After a breakup, most people don’t stop thinking about their ex until they fall in love with someone else. Therefore, when you first meet someone new you may still have feelings for your ex. That can really complicate things if your ex decides s/he wants to get back together with …
Can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t have? Feel like you’re settling in some way for the relationship you’re in? That’s what I call Relationship kryptonite. Perhaps it’s your ex that you haven’t gotten over, “the one that got away”. Or frequently it’s a one night stand, or a fabulous …
If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of his/her boundaries. It damages trust. Once trust is gone it’s …
Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …
Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, and desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and usually end it anyway. Several of my male clients have all told me the same thing. “The best …
Are your childhood issues ruining your relationships? If so, I have to tell you that’s your fault, not your parents. But that’s good news! Because you have the power to stop allowing your demons to sabotage your chance at true love. Stop blaming your parents and start taking action to improve …
