Is Your Kryptonite Destroying Your Relationship?

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Can’t stop thinking about someone you can’t have? Feel like you’re settling in some way for the relationship you’re in? That’s what I call Relationship kryptonite. Perhaps it’s your ex that you haven’t gotten over, “the one that got away”. Or frequently it’s a one night stand, or a fabulous …

Dating An Addict

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Having a positive attitude and being a supportive partner is something I highly recommend—unless you’re dating an addict. When you first meet an alcoholic, you may not see his or her drinking as a problem. Drinking is very social, and when you’re attracted to someone, it’s easy to get swept …

12 Steps to Protect Your Finances When Leaving an Abusive Relationship

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by Dana Sitar (@danasitar) for The Penny Hoarder Lisa Orban was married to her abuser for three years. In 1990, she left after he threatened to kill her and their two young children. She was 20 years old. Her financial situation in the marriage? “Bad, in a nutshell,” she recalls. Not …

Looking at Your Partner’s Phone

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If you feel the need to look at your partner’s phone there is something wrong; either with your relationship, or with you. Under no circumstance is it appropriate for you to snoop in your lover’s phone. It’s a violation of his/her boundaries. It damages trust. Once trust is gone it’s …

Are You in Limbo?

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Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …

Breakup With Your Frenemies

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Do you have a friend that you don’t really like but you stay friends with anyway? The very nature of the word “frenemy” which is a merging of the completely opposite words “friend” and “enemy” should tell you it’s not a good relationship. But frenemies are more than just bad …

The Better Way To Breakup

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Hurting someone’s feelings is never easy but if you want to end your relationship it’s the compassionate thing to do. In fact, the more final you can be the better. People hear what they want to hear. If you try to sugar coat the breakup your soon-to-be ex will focus …

Don’t Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

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Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, & desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and end it anyway.

Best Way to Make Your Ex Leave You Alone

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If you have broken up with someone who is not letting go and won’t stop contacting you, you need to send him/her a very clear message that you are done. As a breakup coach, most of my clients come to me to try to get their ex back. They are …

How to Tell Someone You Don’t Want a Future Together

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If you know you don’t want a future with the person you’re dating the compassionate thing to do is end it and stop wasting his or her time. Hurting someone a little now is better than devastating them later. The old, “It’s not you is me” is still the best …

How to Breakup the RIGHT Way, NOT by Ghosting

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Have you ever had your heart broken? I believe that is a defining question. Post-heartbreak, many of my clients experiencing it for the first time have had epiphanies. All of a sudden, they felt sorry for how they behaved or for things they had said to past lovers before they …

Should I Give an Ultimatum?

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We have all heard stories about someone who gave their partner an ultimatum and got what he or she wanted. But I’m sure you have also heard about someone who tried to give an ultimatum and it ended badly, maybe that was even you. So why is it that ultimatums …

How to Deal with Fear to Help Your Relationship

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I believe fear is the root of all relationship problems. The most common fears are fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and even fear of success. Everyone has fear on some level. We develop it in our childhood. …

When and How to Leave a Relationship

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Love can conquer all. It sounds so simple, right? Wrong! One of the hardest concepts to accept is that loving someone just isn’t enough. Too many men and women allow themselves to become doormats because they believe true love will triumph. They’re convinced that there will never be another person …

Forgive or Get Out

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Don’t be a hater. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. A major cause of breakups is not putting squabbles and resentments to rest. You need to forgive or get out! Nagging will never help you. Consistently throwing past events in your partner’s face can only …