If your ex doesn't want all of you, Give him/her none of you.

After a Breakup Your Ex Gets All or Nothing

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Breakups are really painful. Many of my clients who come to me looking for help to either get their ex back or get over the heartache have never reached out for any kind of help before. But they find themselves unable to handle this kind of grief. Losing the love …

Do you really want your ex back? Be careful what you wish for.

Want Your Ex Back?

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Be Careful What You Wish For If you’re pining for your ex and hoping to reunite, the best way to feel better is to get over him or her by deciding you don’t want them back. Ask yourself if it was honestly a good relationship for you. I’m not talking about in the beginning when you didn’t REALLY …

No one likes to be scolded, it makes them defensive.

Playing The Victim Won’t Help You

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Blaming someone for the ways they hurt you or pointing out what they did wrong only makes you look bad. It certainly does not endear them to you. Playing the victim will never get you what you want, just the opposite. The best way to get someone to do what …

Should I Be Friends With My Ex?

Should I Be Friends With My Ex?

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Clients frequently ask me, “Should I be friends with my ex?” Well. if you were to be completely honest with yourself, I think you would know that you do not want to be friends with your ex. What you want is to keep him or her in your life because …

Going from a committed relationship to just sex should feel demeaning.

Should I Have Sex With My Ex?

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Sex can be an awful lot like comfort food. In the moment, it’s all about pleasure. It’s hot, fun, and yummy—sometimes even decadent—and the consequences are far from any present concern. But when it’s over, you might not be left feeling comfortable. You may even feel a lot worse. If …

How to Stop Being Angry

How to Stop Being Angry

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When you’re angry do you vent to anyone who will listen? If you’re angry at your ex or anyone else do you fantasize about how you would like to tell them off or contemplate how to get revenge? If so, does it help you feel better? Or if you were …

Should We Get Back Together?

Should We Get Back Together?

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Most of my clients come to me wanting their ex back. Sometimes it truly was a relationship worth saving, and I help reunite them and make it even better than it was before. However, more frequently I end up showing him or her how their relationship was dysfunction, and why …

First two months of a relationship

The Truth About the First Two Months of a Relationship

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When you know you know! How many times have you heard someone say that? Many people will say they knew right away that he or she was “the one” as soon as they met their husband or wife. But in reality, you can only know that a person has great …

Getting revenge on your ex

Getting Revenge on Your Ex

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They say success is the best revenge. But that’s only true if you’re not trying to get revenge. So if you’re thinking about getting revenge on your ex I warn you it may backfire. Anything you do to purposefully show off for your ex is always transparent, and typically makes …

The truth about how to get your ex back

The Truth About How to Get Your Ex Back

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If you do an Internet search for “How to Get Your Ex Back” you’ll find pages of videos, downloadable answers (for a price), and even a few guarantees from non-accredited individuals who promise they have the solution you so desperately want. But this is a cold hard fact: PEOPLE HAVE …