It’s abusive if your partner criticizes things you say, how you do things, or what you look like. That may sound obvious, but if he’s disguising it as humor, it’s harder to recognize—and to stop. If you do rebut his
How to Be Happy Without a Relationship
Loneliness – that feeling that comes when you’re alone and don’t want to be. The yearning to share your heart and life and body with another is the most human and natural of desires. But if it’s gnawing at you day and night it can be one of the most …
How to Get Over a Breakup
Most of my clients ask me how long it takes to get over a breakup. Well, it’s different for everyone. It usually depends on the length and the quality of the relationship, and most importantly, your willingness to let go. The longer the relationship the harder is to adjust to …
When to Let Go After a Breakup
The best thing you can do to make yourself feel better and to build your self-esteem is to just let go after a breakup. I promise you, all my clients that cut all contact with their ex feel so much better about themselves than the ones who bombarded their ex …
People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: “he’s really busy at work,” “she’s
When NOT to Text
Just because you have the ability to do something doesn’t mean you should do it. Just because you can send a message immediately doesn’t mean you deserve an immediate response. You need to know when not to text at all. Electronic communication has changed relationships—and not for the better. For …
How to Recognize a Commitmentphobic
What makes it so hard to recognize a commitmentphobic and even comprehend at first is that most people, both men and women, who say they’re looking for commitment or marriage are actually doing just that. Most of them want to be in a loving relationship with all of their heart, …
You Are What You Think You Are
Finding a happy relationship is not really about what you look like. Or what a man or woman thinks of you. It’s not about what he or she wants, or likes or does. It’s all about you! It’s about what you think. What you feel. And what you choose. It’s …