Should We Get Back Together?

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Most of my clients come to me wanting their ex back. Sometimes it truly was a relationship worth saving, and I help reunite them and make it even better than it was before. However, more frequently I end up showing him or her how their relationship was dysfunction, and why …

How to Deal with Fear to Help Your Relationship

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I believe fear is the root of all relationship problems. The most common fears are fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and even fear of success. Everyone has fear on some level. We develop it in our childhood. …

Breaking Your Own Heart by Falling in Love Too Easily

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Are you feeling heartbroken over someone you only knew for three months or less? Did you fall in love within the first two weeks of meeting? Good news! That means you can get over him or her quickly too. I don’t mean to trivialize what you’re feeling but it’s much …

The Truth About the First Two Months of a Relationship

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When you know you know! How many times have you heard someone say that? Many people will say they knew right away that he or she was “the one” as soon as they met their husband or wife. But in reality, you can only know that a person has great …

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How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you?

Are You Pining For Your Relationship’s Amazing Beginning?

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Are you holding on to the fantasy that all the good things that happened at the beginning of your relationship truly define who your lover is? Are you hoping he or she will change and go back to being the ideal partner you initially thought he or she was? I …

How to Stop Feeling Rejected

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Your perception is your reality. Your brain receives stimuli and information and forms an opinion. What makes relationships tricky is that no two brains perceive information the same way, not even in identical twins. So what seems very real to you may seem ridiculous to someone else. This doesn’t make …

When and How to Leave a Relationship

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Love can conquer all. It sounds so simple, right? Wrong! One of the hardest concepts to accept is that loving someone just isn’t enough. Too many men and women allow themselves to become doormats because they believe true love will triumph. They’re convinced that there will never be another person …

Getting Revenge on Your Ex

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They say success is the best revenge but that’s only true if you’re not trying to get revenge. Anything you do to purposefully show off for your ex is always transparent, and typically makes you look desperate and it gives away your power. If you post Facebook, Twitter or Instagram …

Why You Need to Stop Cyber Stalking Your Ex

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A social media user has easy access to potential heartbreak. I’ve always believed that snooping is a bad idea. If you find something that upsets you in your snooping, you can’t ask about it without admitting that you were snooping. Snooping is a major violation of boundaries and is very …

Forgive or Get Out

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Don’t be a hater. If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all. A major cause of breakups is not putting squabbles and resentments to rest. You need to forgive or get out! Nagging will never help you. Consistently throwing past events in your partner’s face can only …

What Do You Do When the ONE You Wanted Marries Someone Else?

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“He just met her… She’s supposed to be his transitional person; she’s not supposed to be the ONE. All this time I thought he didn’t want to get married. But, the truth is, he didn’t want to marry me.” Meg Ryan’s line from When Harry Met Sally speaks for many …

Why You’re Still Single

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Many times when I try to help a client or friend see that their relationship is not good for them, their response is that all relationships have problems. Their view is that someone else will just bring another set of difficulties or even the same ones. So they might as …

The Truth About How to Get Your Ex Back

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If you do an Internet search for “How to Get Your Ex Back” you’ll find pages of videos, downloadable answers (for a price), and even a few guarantees from non-accredited individuals who promise they have the solution you so desperately want. But this is a cold hard fact: PEOPLE HAVE …

Dealing With the Anger of a Breakup

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Question: How do I get rid of the anger I have for past boyfriends who broke my heart? I am particularly angry at the men who said we would get married and without any warning ended the relationship and immediately started dating other women before our relationship was officially over, …