When you're feeling rejected don't reject back, communicate.

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It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally …

Are you in limbo waiting for something to change about your relationship?

Are You in Limbo?

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Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …

Breakup With Your Frenemies

Breakup With Your Frenemies

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Do you have a friend that you don’t really like but you stay friends with anyway? The very nature of the word “frenemy” which is a merging of the completely opposite words “friend” and “enemy” should tell you it’s not a good relationship. But frenemies are more than just bad …

Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?

Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?

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Has everyone you dated been unavailable to you in one way or another? They may seem available in some ways but are they also long distance, emotionally closed, won’t commit completely, or married to someone else? Be really honest with yourself and answer the following 3 questions. How available is this guy …

The better way to breakup

The Better Way To Breakup

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Hurting someone’s feelings is never easy but if you want to end your relationship it’s the compassionate thing to do. In fact, the more final you can be the better. People hear what they want to hear. If you try to sugar coat the breakup your soon-to-be ex will focus …

Don't Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

Don’t Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

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Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, and desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and usually end it anyway. Several of my male clients have all told me the same thing. “The best …

It's time to stop blaming your parents for your issues

Time to Stop Blaming Your Parents

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Are your childhood issues ruining your relationships? If so, I have to tell you that’s your fault, not your parents. But that’s good news! Because you have the power to stop allowing your demons to sabotage your chance at true love. Stop blaming your parents and start taking action to improve …

The best way to make your ex leave you alone

Best Way to Make Your Ex Leave You Alone

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If you have broken up with someone who is not letting go and won’t stop contacting you, the best way to make your ex leave you alone is to send him/her a very clear message that you are done. As a breakup coach, most of my clients come to me …

Be compassionate and do not leave the door open if you're done with the relationship.

How to Tell Someone You Don’t Want a Future Together

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If you know the person you’re dating is crazy about you but you also know you don’t want a future with her than the compassionate thing to do is end it and stop wasting her time. Hurting someone a little now is better than devastating them later. The old, “It’s …

Breakup the right way. Have integrity! What goes around does always come back around.

How to Breakup the RIGHT Way, NOT by Ghosting

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Have you ever had your heart broken? I believe that is a defining question. Post-heartbreak, many of my clients experiencing it for the first time have had epiphanies. All of a sudden, they felt sorry for how they behaved or for things they had said to past lovers before they …

You need to feel lovable to stop being jealous.

Stop Being Jealous to Save Your Relationship

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It’s been said that it’s not love that is blind, but jealousy. When left unbridled, jealousy is an incredibly destructive emotion. But if you give jealousy vision, you can use it as an insightful tool to determine the quality of your relationship. Jealousy has several different characterizations, but at its core, …

Should I Give an Ultimatum

Should I Give an Ultimatum?

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We have all heard stories about someone who gave their partner an ultimatum and got what he or she wanted. But I’m sure you have also heard about someone who tried to give an ultimatum and it ended badly, maybe that was even you. So why is it that ultimatums …

How to Deal with Fear to Help Your Relationship

How to Deal with Fear to Help Your Relationship

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I believe fear is the root of all relationship problems. The most common fears are fear of abandonment, fear of intimacy, fear of commitment, fear of change, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and even fear of success. Everyone has fear on some level. We develop it in our childhood. …

How to tell if you are being paranoid or you should trust your instincts.

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How do you feel when your partner isn’t with you? Do you worry about who he or she may potentially meet, or might be spending time with? Do you frequently call or text to check-up? Do you need constant contact and reassurance of his or her feelings for you?