women can be abusive to men.

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help. Recognize the signs of domestic violence against men Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence —

Get your plan ready. It's time to leave your relationship.

When Its Time to Go: Part 1

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

A checklist of essentials to take with you when escaping abuse Walking out the door and away from an abuser—or kicking an abusive partner out the door, if so inclined—is seldom as easy as it sounds. Abusers thrive on power and control, and having their victim leave them is the ultimate …

When you're feeling rejected don't reject back, communicate.

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

It’s a defense mechanism to reject someone you feel rejected by. But if you’re feeling rejected by the person you’re in a relationship with you need to resist that instinct and communicate how you’re feeling. You need to find out what you don’t know. We tend to take everything personally …

How to Survive the Weekends After a Breakup

How to Survive the Weekends After a Breakup

DonnaBarnes Get Over a Breakup Leave a Comment

What is my ex doing without me this weekend? Is he or she with someone else? Does s/he even miss me? Those kind of thoughts are one of the hardest parts of a breakup — but you can survive, and even be happy if you choose to think about better things, and do …

Are you in limbo waiting for something to change about your relationship?

Are You in Limbo?

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

Are you waiting for something to happen that is out of your control? Like for your ex to come back, to get married, or move forward? That’s being in limbo, and limbo sucks. Take your power back. Make a strong choice that you want something better. Take action and/or walk …

Breakup With Your Frenemies

Breakup With Your Frenemies

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

Do you have a friend that you don’t really like but you stay friends with anyway? The very nature of the word “frenemy” which is a merging of the completely opposite words “friend” and “enemy” should tell you it’s not a good relationship. But frenemies are more than just bad …

Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?

Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues, Get Over a Breakup Leave a Comment

Has everyone you dated been unavailable to you in one way or another? They may seem available in some ways but are they also long distance, emotionally closed, won’t commit completely, or married to someone else? Be really honest with yourself and answer the following 3 questions. How available is this guy …

Do you really want your ex back? Be careful what you wish for.

Want Your Ex Back?

DonnaBarnes Get Over a Breakup Leave a Comment

Be Careful What You Wish For If you’re pining for your ex and hoping to reunite, the best way to feel better is to get over him or her by deciding you don’t want them back. Ask yourself if it was honestly a good relationship for you. I’m not talking about in the beginning when you didn’t REALLY …

The better way to breakup

The Better Way To Breakup

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

Hurting someone’s feelings is never easy but if you want to end your relationship it’s the compassionate thing to do. In fact, the more final you can be the better. People hear what they want to hear. If you try to sugar coat the breakup your soon-to-be ex will focus …

Don't Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

Don’t Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, and desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and usually end it anyway. Several of my male clients have all told me the same thing. “The best …

It's time to stop blaming your parents for your issues

Time to Stop Blaming Your Parents

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

Are your childhood issues ruining your relationships? If so, I have to tell you that’s your fault, not your parents. But that’s good news! Because you have the power to stop allowing your demons to sabotage your chance at true love. Stop blaming your parents and start taking action to improve …

The best way to make your ex leave you alone

Best Way to Make Your Ex Leave You Alone

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

If you have broken up with someone who is not letting go and won’t stop contacting you, the best way to make your ex leave you alone is to send him/her a very clear message that you are done. As a breakup coach, most of my clients come to me …

No one likes to be scolded, it makes them defensive.

Playing The Victim Won’t Help You

DonnaBarnes Get Over a Breakup Leave a Comment

Blaming someone for the ways they hurt you or pointing out what they did wrong only makes you look bad. It certainly does not endear them to you. Playing the victim will never get you what you want, just the opposite. The best way to get someone to do what …

Be compassionate and do not leave the door open if you're done with the relationship.

How to Tell Someone You Don’t Want a Future Together

DonnaBarnes Fix Our Issues Leave a Comment

If you know the person you’re dating is crazy about you but you also know you don’t want a future with her than the compassionate thing to do is end it and stop wasting her time. Hurting someone a little now is better than devastating them later. The old, “It’s …