Do You Keep Falling for Lovers Who Are Unavailable?

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Has everyone you dated been unavailable to you in one way or another? They may seem available in some ways but are they also long distance, emotionally closed, won’t commit completely, or married to someone else? Be really honest with yourself and answer the following 3 questions. How available is this guy …

Want Your Ex Back?

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Be Careful What You Wish For If you’re pining for your ex and hoping to reunite, the best way to feel better is to get over him or her by deciding you don’t want them back. Ask yourself if it was honestly a good relationship for you. I’m not talking about in the beginning when you didn’t REALLY …

The Better Way To Breakup

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Hurting someone’s feelings is never easy but if you want to end your relationship it’s the compassionate thing to do. In fact, the more final you can be the better. People hear what they want to hear. If you try to sugar coat the breakup your soon-to-be ex will focus …

Don’t Let Your Best Conversation Be Your Last

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Too many people are afraid to tell their partner their wants, needs, & desires because they don’t want to destroy their relationship. But keeping them to yourself will cause other problems and end it anyway.

Time to Stop Blaming Your Parents

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Are your childhood issues ruining your relationships? That’s your fault, not your parents. You have the power to stop allowing your demons to sabotage your chance at true love. As an adult, you have free will to make whatever choices you want. Your parents may have created your feelings of fear, …

Best Way to Make Your Ex Leave You Alone

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If you have broken up with someone who is not letting go and won’t stop contacting you, you need to send him/her a very clear message that you are done. As a breakup coach, most of my clients come to me to try to get their ex back. They are …

Playing The Victim Won’t Help You

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Blaming someone for the ways they hurt you or pointing out what they did wrong only makes you look bad. It certainly does not endear them to you, or get you what you want. The best way to get someone to do what you want is to inspire them to …

How to Tell Someone You Don’t Want a Future Together

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If you know you don’t want a future with the person you’re dating the compassionate thing to do is end it and stop wasting his or her time. Hurting someone a little now is better than devastating them later. The old, “It’s not you is me” is still the best …

How to Breakup the RIGHT Way, NOT by Ghosting

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Have you ever had your heart broken? I believe that is a defining question. Post-heartbreak, many of my clients experiencing it for the first time have had epiphanies. All of a sudden, they felt sorry for how they behaved or for things they had said to past lovers before they …

Do I Have Only One Soul Mate?

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Finding the love of your life, your one and only soul-mate, can feel like looking for a needle in a haystack. So when you deeply connect with someone it’s extremely hard to let go if it doesn’t work out. But if you decide to think that was your only chance …

Should I Be Friends With My Ex?

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If you were to be completely honest with yourself you would know that you do not want to be friends with your ex. What you want is to keep him or her in your life because you hope to get back together. The thought of completely losing him or her …

Should I Have Sex With My Ex?

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Sex can be an awful lot like comfort food. In the moment, it’s all about pleasure. It’s hot, fun, and yummy—sometimes even decadent—and the consequences are far from any present concern. But when it’s over, you might not be left feeling comfortable. You may even feel a lot worse. If …

How to Stop Being Angry

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When you’re angry do you vent to anyone who will listen? If you’re angry at your ex or anyone else do you fantasize about how you would like to tell them off or contemplate how to get revenge? If so, does it help you feel better? Or if you were …

Stop Being Jealous to Save Your Relationship

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It’s been said that it’s not love that is blind, but jealousy. When left unbridled, jealousy is an incredibly destructive emotion. But if you give jealousy vision, you can use it as an insightful tool to determine the quality of your relationship. Jealousy has several different characterizations, but at its core, …

Should I Give an Ultimatum?

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We have all heard stories about someone who gave their partner an ultimatum and got what he or she wanted. But I’m sure you have also heard about someone who tried to give an ultimatum and it ended badly, maybe that was even you. So why is it that ultimatums …